How do you show and receive love? Have you ever read Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages? There is an online quiz if you’re unsure of what yours is. Knowing what your love language is and that of your partner or friends is because it can impact our relationships.
We may each speak a different love language and not understand why we aren’t getting it reciprocated the same way. What about how it impacts the way we offer affection and love to ourselves?
What does hot chocolate have to do with it?
Actually a lot. The other day while reading a post, someone mentioned that making someone a hot chocolate, the old-fashioned way was an act of love. Now hold up here, does that mean if someone made you a hot chocolate in the Keurig it means they love you less? Absolutely not. Someone who makes the hot chocolate may consider it an act of service, the one receiving it may not consider it as an act of service.
It made me wonder and consider more about my love language. Some people feel the love languages we have are based on the love we didn’t receive as a child. That it could be a trauma response. For me, I didn’t receive a lot of words of affirmation or physical touch, that I remember. It’s still not my love language. I’m more about acts of service and giving gifts.
Recognizing your and/or your partner’s love language
It can help you understand your needs in the relationship and theirs as well. Giving you both an opportunity to explore ways to get those needs met when your love language may not be the same.
Exploring ways to meet those needs for one another can be awkward especially when those acts don’t come naturally to you. Being open, honest, and kind with one another gives you another opportunity to connect.
Creating space for this exploration is not only a type of love language, it allows for practicing and being together uninterrupted. Consider this practice as a ‘date’ building or maintaining a foundation in your relationship.
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