Have you ever recognized you’re repeating a pattern of behaviour or habit?
Typically, as humans, we tend to repeat patterns.
Think about those math drills while in grade school.
Possibly, you’ve heard the phrase, we repeat what we haven’t learned from.
This can be especially true for survivors.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been out of the trauma for.
We may not recognize the pattern until after we’ve repeated the pattern or behaviour.
Repeating patterns of behaviour can look differently for everyone.
Too many times, we don’t stop or recognize we’re repeating these patterns of behaviour until after the fact.
Then one day, you have an awareness or feeling of deja vu.
You recognize you’ve done this before.
This awareness helps us to reflect on why we’re behaving this way and how we can make changes to avoid repeating them again.
These repeated patterns can appear in our relationships and in everyday life.
This isn’t to say the behaviour or habits are unhealthy. It just means, there may be a change we’d like to make in it.
The other day, I recognized that my concern around a second wave of the pandemic has led me to purchase some extra groceries.
That acknowledgement, made me look at a pattern I had of a similar behaviour while I was with my abuser.
I was able to explore it more and see what was happening and what my automatic response was FEAR.
Fear had led me to buy extra while I was with my abuser and it was leading me during COVID.
Drilling down on your behaviours, habits, and triggered responses shows you areas in your life you may want to work on.
By acknowledging these things, you can drill down to why you do the thing(s) you do.
You can change up your future responses.
Are you repeating a pattern of behaviours? What is it and how are you dealing with it?
We offer Wellness Coaching packages and can help you move through these changes.
Why not consider joining our online support group and get further support from us there as well.
Note: We are not Therapists, Registered Counsellors, Psychologists, and or Medical doctors. We are survivors ourselves, who offer support groups and services that help complement traditional therapies and medications. At no time are we providing a diagnosis or making medical recommendations. It is always recommended you speak with a Health Care Professional before making any changes.