Body Image- Do I look Good Enough?
Body image- From a young age, this is something that is drilled into our heads. Whether it is coming verbally or non-verbally. The Models, have to look a certain way, the characters in our favorite shows had to be a certain way, and there is so much shaming around what we look like. This isn’t ok.
Then let’s talk about health class in school. They tell you that you need to eat a certain way, and have certain foods. This starts at a very young age. Then as we got older we started looking at the calories of things, BMI, BMR. What the predetermined weight, shape, and size you should be. If you are not within those parameters you are, well, not healthy.
No wonder why we have body image issues.
Terms like Obese, fat, and overweight get thrown around so loosely now. In schools now, they are made to do their own body and numbers to do projects in health class. This right here sets us up for trying to change the numbers, try and hide it so people don’t think less of you. On top of that, they have to then come up with a plan/ diet, to help them lose 10 lbs. WHAT? How is this ok.
Did you know that there is actually a stress response in the body, that actually makes it almost impossible to lose weight? When we are so stressed out by our body image, that puts a lot of stress on the body. This stress response more often than not puts weight on.
How do we break this?
The terms “self-love” get thrown around so frequently now that I feel that the term is getting so overused. Yes, love yourself. Obviously, if we could just snap our little fingers together that we would miraculously love ourselves again and we wouldn’t have these body image issues. However, we know that isn’t the case.
Loving yourself can also mean digging deep into your trauma or even your past, to figure out where these thoughts and feelings first started from. Which can be very hard work. This is something if you have not already that we suggest working with a professional trauma counselor.
Life after Trauma
Distorted Body image can stem from many things from our traumas. When we talk about domestic violence, women are sometimes dictated what they can and cannot eat, when they can eat, how much they can eat. They may be shamed for the way they look and told that how they look is wrong or disgusting. All the while making them feel like it was all their fault. This is really only the tip of the iceberg.
When we talk about sexual abuse, some women are then shamed of their bodies. They try to make themselves look less desirable, or the complete opposite can happen. It could have been used as a form of attention. Leading women down an unhealthy obsession with attention. Again this is only just a piece of the puzzle.
The hard part is, that some of these women don’t know they have a distorted view of their body image. Some women feel what they are doing and feeling are completely normal.
Intuitive Eating and Life- Coaching
So, how does either of these play a role in body image? Well, when we talk about body image and self-love, that is really the foundation of intuitive eating. We don’t just tell yourself to love yourself more. As we can clearly see that it’s much more than that. Teaming up with both Kari and I, we are able to help assist you to get to your end result. How do you want to feel? Some might not even know how they want to feel, just they don’t want to feel how they currently do.
The foundation in really anything that we do in life is a direct reflection on how we see and respect ourselves. We can’t have confidence if we don’t love and respect ourselves. This takes time. Each healing journey looks completely different and as we have mentioned so many times in the past, it most definitely isn’t a linear line.
What is Next?
We are here to support you, guide you, and educate you on your healing journey! We want to give you the tools and resources to succeed. Some people feel that they need to live this life of anxiety and depression for the rest of their lives because they don’t know that they can feel better! If you want to learn more about how we can help support you on your healing journey, contact us directly! We would love to set up a consultation devoted to your healing journey! What Daily community support? Join Our Private Facebook Group for Women Warriors!
Note: We are not Therapists, Registered Counsellors, Psychologists, and or Medical doctors. We are survivors ourselves, who offer support groups and services that help complement traditional therapies and medications. At no time are we providing a diagnosis or making medical recommendations. It is always recommended you speak with a Health Care Professional before making any changes.